The Power in the Pivot
What if confidence lives inside failure?
If your creative journey feels off, it’s time to pivot.
Last month I launched a program, and nobody signed up.
Everything seemed right on paper, but I wasn't actually enjoying it.
Something felt empty about it to me on the inside, and I couldn't find out why.
I had no inspiration or joy around what I was creating.
I realized I'd lost touch with my creativity because I wasn’t connected to my pleasure.
Here’s How I Found the Joy Inside My Creative Process:
And Why You Need to Pivot Toward Pleasure
"Can I honor the part of me that feels like a victim?" The part that says nobody wants to come to my classes, nobody cares what I’m doing, and no one thinks I’m talented.
“Can I honor that voice and find it as a portal to compassion?”
How many people feel this way too—like nobody wants them, no one wants to do what they’re offering, no one wants to love them?
We all feel this sometimes, and yet we can still be confident.
We can still feel our self-worth even in those moments.
Honoring the victim turns into self-assurance.
We love ourselves first,
we dance for ourselves first,
we climax in our own skin.
We sign up for our own programs, say yes to what we’re offering.
That is self-assurance.
If you feel empty, give yourself what you’re missing.
When you embrace every part of your emotional experience—feeling unworthy, feeling confident, feeling on top of the world, then feeling like nothing—that’s when you become fully present. This dance of dichotomies is important; they are all different colors in your life’s palette.
Confidence doesn’t happen without failure, doubt, or fear. Those elements live within confidence. True confidence is the ability to keep going, to find that motivation deep within and assure yourself.
That's what confidence really is: the power to assure yourself.
It’s choosing yourself, even when you’re scared, unsure, and questioning everything. It’s believing in yourself, even as you hold both excitement and fear.
When the spectrum of opposites exists within you—when fear and hope coexist—that’s confidence. That’s empowerment. That’s dancing for yourself first, climaxing in your own skin, and believing in yourself right now.
If there’s a gap, a negative space, you fill it with positivity, hope, persistence, and self-assurance. These are the ingredients for true success, not just getting by, but truly enjoying your creative process.
To “make it” doesn’t mean you just arrive—it means you have to make it happen. It’s a conscious act of participation. There’s a reverence in the making process, in creating the life you desire, that’s often distorted by the grind culture. But you are not just blindly grinding. You’re making art, carefully choosing the ingredients that nourish your body and soul.
"What ingredients do I want in the stew? What balances it? What nourishes my body?"
When we recognize the dignity and beauty in the creative process, we realize that success isn’t about “making it” happen instantly. It’s about love, self-assurance, and the work it takes to bring something to life.
I’m telling this to myself as much as I’m telling you: it’s a journey.
Feeling like a failure is part of it. Others might look at you and say, "You’ve made it." But you know, you still need to “make it” again tomorrow, to assure yourself in the darkest moments that you are worthy, that you can do it, that you are important – every day.
You must give yourself what you need first,
before asking the world for it.
That is the most important thing I could suggest: "Whatever you're looking for, can you be that for yourself first?"
Pining for something different only hurts. It hurts to see yourself through the lens of what you don’t have. Instead, pause, and connect to your body.
Assure yourself that your voice is eloquent, worthy, knowledgeable, and that you can take up space.
Failure isn’t failure; it’s a step toward alignment and success.
To make that shift,
I had to pause and connect with my body.
I had to feel good inside myself first.
When I felt good, the next step in my life reflected that feeling of goodness.
But it took persistence.
I had to embrace the failure of not being able to touch that joy initially and still show up for myself.
And eventually, I cracked open. Beneath my surface, I found joy again. I remembered who I am and what I want to bring to the world. I reconnected to my light and my purpose, after living outside myself for too long.
The best pivots take you away from what doesn’t light you up and move you closer to what excites you—the laughter in your belly, the stars behind your eyes, the joy in your body.
Creating anything without touching that joy first is a dud.
So, when a project doesn’t feel good, pause.
Find the joy inside your body and pivot toward it.
When you open your eyes and decide what’s next, let it reflect the joy you’ve found within. Because that joy is your creative power—your true power.
We don’t have to follow medical models of giving birth in sterile hospitals to model how humans bring their creative projects to life.
Creativity gets to be nourishing and universally fulfilling for us all.
with love,
Tamina
xx
PS. Did this stir something in you? I’m bringing Pussy Church back because, firstly, I Need it. And secondly, I want to gather with Queens every Sunday to connect with what lights us up from the inside out.
Pussy Church is a Feminine Healing Space to Manifest Joy & Dance Like a Goddess.
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